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Intro to Goodness

Goodness, Grace, & Great Thoughts on Fire

– How to Embrace 7 Billion Shades of You

By Tora Zophia Silverhøj (former Susana Mei)

 

Have you ever asked yourself the questions:

 

What is life about?

Who am I? and

How can I feel whole and free?

Goodness, Grace & Great Thoughts on Fire invites you to experience and expand your perception of life into something greater than good or bad, positive and negative. In this book you will learn that all is good — for the highest good!

 

In this illuminating volume, Susana Mei Silverhøj has deeply opened her heart to awaken you to loving yourself — exactly as you are — by telling personal stories that you will relate to. These stories will help you to remember your uniqueness and to embrace both your light and shadows in all their many shades.

 

The “feel-good menu” of 33 personal, brutally truthful and transformational stories will help you pick and choose what gifts resonate with you on your journey — the journey of creating magic and awesomeness in your life.

 

Receive and embody the frequencies of:

  • Empowerment to create a magical life

  • Changing perceptions and beliefs to feel free, vibrant, and powerful

  • Embodiment and alignment of body, mind, heart, and soul

  • Inclusion and acceptance of your uniqueness, just as you are

  • Love to embrace the 7 billion shades of you

Copyright © 2019 Susana Mei Silverhøj.

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the author except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

This book is a work of non-fiction. Unless otherwise noted, the author make no explicit guarantees as to the accuracy of the information contained in this book and in some cases, names of people and places have been altered to protect their privacy.

Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid.

The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author assume no responsibility for your actions.

 

Coverdesign: Verónica Martínez www.behance.net/veronicamartinez

Coverphoto: Kerstin Rossbander  www.pureblume.de

Editing: Juliette Lachemeier  www.theeruditepen.com

 

PRAISE for Goodness, Grace & Great Thoughts on Fire

“Susana’s stories point to the elegance and graceful simplicity that we all desire in life, but struggle to achieve. The idea that life could really be as simple as being willing to try on the various ‘shades’ of me while embracing my true personality, following my heart and learning to live with purpose is an idea that inspires me.

 I love the way Susana brings humor and humility to her personal journey through life.

Her vulnerability, openness and open-eyed truth-telling are comforting and reassuring as we struggle to embrace our humanity and trust that our evolution will indeed occur in divine timing. I highly recommend this book to those on a journey of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-acceptance”.

 

— Dr. Andrea Pennington

Creator of The Attunement Process Meditation,

and Author of I Love You, Me!

 

 ”Goodness, Grace and Great Thoughts on Fire is a must-read for anyone who wants to love more, feel more and live more.

Susana takes readers on a fun, inspirational and transformational journey into our deepest essence. It is a delightful guide home through raw and personal stories from her heart”.

 

– Rachael Jayne Groover

Best-selling Author of Powerful and Feminine

Creator of Art of Feminine Presence®

 

DEDICATION

To my amazing and most loving children—Ellice, Theo, and Hugo.

Thank you for letting me love you and for making my life so rich and magical!

 

Contents

Preface……………………………………………………………………….. 12

Introduction…………………………………………………………….. 19

Perfect, just the way you are………………………………….. 26

Resist or embrace every shade of you……………………. 36

Fight and Flight story…………………………………………………………………………….. 39

The vision lesson………………………………………………………………………………………… 42

AORA………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… 45

The hat trick………………………………………………………………………………………………… 47

Who am I?……………………………………………………………………… 51

Accept and Reconnect to I AM……………………………………………………………… 54

Ask and you shall receive…………………………………………. 56

What is the right thing?…………………………………………… 61

I´m rich!……………………………………………………………………….. 64

Darling beautiful Sanna…………………………………………………………………………. 70

My inner bitch wants to say: #€&&&//(*# off!………… 72

MINE, YOURS, OR OUR EMOTIONS?……………………………………………………. 72

Hollywood-wife-wannabe……………………………………….. 76

A life as a French B- grade movie……………………………… 80

WHAT IS REALITY?……………………………………………………………………………………… 80

Fibromyalgia – disease from hell or a gift in disguise?   85

How to communicate with our bodies……………………………………………….. 90

The raw truth and nothing but the truth so help me God          92

Laws – truths or lies?………………………………………………… 99

The Twelve Universal Laws………………………………………………………………… 102

  1. The Law of Divine Oneness……………………………………………………………. 102
  2. Law of Vibration……………………………………………………………………………….. 103
  3. The Law of Action…………………………………………………………………………….. 105
  4. The Law of Correspondence…………………………………………………………. 106
  5. The Law of Cause and Effect………………………………………………………… 108
  6. The Law of Compensation…………………………………………………………….. 110
  7. The Law of Attraction…………………………………………………………………….. 111
  8. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy………………….. 113
  9. The Law of Relativity………………………………………………………………………. 114
  10. The Law of Polarity……………………………………………………………………….. 115
  11. The Law of Rhythm……………………………………………………………………….. 117
  12. The Law of Gender…………………………………………………………………………. 119

Who can I trust?……………………………………………………….. 122

Heart talk………………………………………………………………… 126

Raining miracles………………………………………………………. 131

Dumb and dumber brunet……………………………………….. 135

Thoughts……………………………………………………………………………………………………… 138

Emotions……………………………………………………………………………………………………….. 138

Judgments……………………………………………………………………………………………………. 139

Why all this drama?…………………………………………………. 140

Missing you………………………………………………………………… 146

How does it get any better than this?…………………. 149

Manifestation formula…………………………………………………………………………. 152

Mantra Jingle…………………………………………………………………………………………….. 154

Black and white energy………………………………………….. 155

Letting go of old grief…………………………………………….. 159

Greedy girls………………………………………………………………. 164

I see you, I feel you, I love you…………………………………. 167

Happily ever after?…………………………………………………. 173

Roller coaster rides between heaven and hell….. 178

Welcome home!………………………………………………………….. 182

Bring home your soul shades……………………………………………………………… 184

A new beginning………………………………………………………… 190

The betrayal…………………………………………………………….. 194

Living on Light with Every Breath you take…………. 199

Co-creation at its best……………………………………………. 205

Goodness and Godness  –  Bless you!……………………….. 213

What dreams may come……………………………………………. 217

Taking back the power!…………………………………………… 223

Afterword……………………………………………………………….. 233

About the author……………………………………………………. 236

Bibliography……………………………………………………………. 238

Preface

 

We are a miniature picture of the universe—inside and out. An entire universe exists within every single one of our cells; 350 billion cells and universes exist at the same time as one and the same. What a mind-blowing thought.

This also means that all things have an effect on everything else. One thought can affect the whole world. There have been experiments with flowers, for example, where even the thought of harming the flower has created a measurable effect on it. With this new awareness, it is time we start to take responsibility for who we are and our actions!

Given that everything is interconnected to this extent, it has been difficult for me to work with only one aspect of my personality or one particular healing modality on my self-growth journey. Focusing on one emotional or spiritual attribute to “solve a problem” has only worked to a certain degree for me, personally. Expanding my personality aspect further into physical and mental traits immediately opened up my consciousness to a totally different level of healing. I am, therefore, very excited about the holistic or integral approach to life.

Traditionally, experts and scientists from all different points of view and faculties have found evidence that backs up their perceptions. Psychologists look at our personal traits and personalities, sociologists look at the world from a social aspect, and neuroscientists look at the nervous system. But instead of seeing how this all fits together, they have been arguing against each other, thus creating even more separation. Would I dare to argue that some psychological diseases could be related to a malfunction in the nervous system? Or vice versa? Some specialists, unfortunately, have been and still are so programmed in their perspectives that they have been unable to see the whole picture. Today, however, many scientists are working with others outside of their own fields of expertise; therefore, we are starting to get some clues on how we as humans function with respect to the universe. Personally, this is where life starts to become juicy as bringing different perspectives together into a holistic and integral view of life is a powerful approach to healing and consciousness expansion. Mainly because we can pick and choose what resonates with us without being “wronged.” Everything is “right” depending on what perspective we come from. And, at one point we see that we actually do not know anything, which is one of life’s paradoxes.

While working in and with different scientific areas, different modalities, and therapies, etc., I realized that each life journey is unique. Living from our hearts and from our unique light and sound frequencies is a journey we can consciously take; we all carry a unique special frequency that we are. Unfortunately, we are taught that we should not think we are special and perfect. Instead, we are taught that we are full of flaws and need fixing. We are not good enough, which gets confirmed over and over, right? But the more we can embrace and embody our unique “heart light” frequency, which is what I call “Earth God/Goddess” or soul signature, the more grounded and relaxed we become and the more we experience divine perfection and grace. In other words, we need to embrace the different shades of self—all 7 billion of them. Then the more we will also experience our own perfection, just as we are. And from that space we feel whole, complete, and free, which creates miracles and magic in our lives.

Since our journeys are unique, we cannot follow other teachers’ paths to enlightenment. But by bringing different perspectives on existence together, we can take quantum leaps into our greatness. We can activate our DNA strands, becoming crystalline bodies and reconnecting to the coolest magical skills we could imagine. Which methods, modalities, and perspectives you resonate with and what your “soul embracing” journey will be unique to your needs. What I can provide is inspiration and guidance for you to find your path. It is our “job” to go with the flow and find what works for us and what expands us. Not because some spiritual teaching or scientist says so but because it feels good and expanding. Or sometimes scary. Fear and excitement carry the same frequency—they are only different interpretations and polarities of this frequency or different sides of the same coin.

I usually choose to try new modalities and treatments in which I have the most resistance and fear. If I experience resistance toward something, I know there is a bigger gift to collect. If I’m not ready to face my fear, I’ll go with a less challenging choice. And I know it is all good. I cannot get it wrong. I made the choice; therefore, it was the “right” one at that moment. There is such freedom and relaxation in that. I did it—therefore, it was divine perfection.

To go on a journey to reconnect with all the shades of ourselves, to feel a greater connection with life, and to feel extraordinary can be frustrating at times. As I have been embracing my different “shades” for so long now, I have found that it helps to have a structure within the chaos. Therefore, I created this book with the purpose of making each soul’s journey easier as its content will help you to assess and embrace yourself just as you are. I truly believe that consciousness is the new “black.” Not fixing consciousness but being consciousness. When we are conscious of the coherence between body, mind, heart, and soul, we can take quantum leaps in our understanding of ourselves and our roles in the greater universe. There are so many gateways we can take to that place we individually consider “home,” but what happens when we open them all? We’ll jump into expansion.

I am not trying to reinvent the wheel. What I have to say is nothing new. What I have done in this book is take all the great ideas, scientific research, visions, and wisdom I have gained and have put it into a menu of personal everyday stories that brings all concepts together in a holistic and connected way. That is what makes this book different. There are thousands of self-love books in the market today. What I have personally missed in these books is the stories behind the wisdom. Stories that cover the how of a teaching and the normal everyday stories we all have that demonstrate how a person integrated the wisdom teachings into their lives. I wanted real-life examples of how other people turned their lives around. So I wrote the book I always wanted to read.

I wrote this book to inspire others by revealing what is possible when living a balanced and empowered life. I would love to see you embrace your life and yourself just by reading this book. I have put my heart and soul into every page of this book. I have given you my personal real-life stories to relate to so that you can feel good about your life and yourself as you are. I want to assist you to perceive life, yourself, and your everyday situations and problems differently. To this aim, I have provided stories from my own journey together with practices, tools, exercises, experiences, and wisdom as well as from experts, teachers, and masters from around the world.

This book is not a step-by-step guide, however, since my experience is that our journeys are unique and individual. The content is not designed to give you a specific number of tasks to do in a select number of days or months and then claim it will transform your life. That tactic might even make you feel worse about yourself or make you feel as though what you do is not good enough. Instead, I have provided you with a “feel-good menu”—just like at a restaurant—where you pick the dish that speaks to you or the food that makes your mouth water. I urge you to take your appetizers, entrées, and desserts that align with you from this “menu” and leave the rest to perhaps try on another visit.

To remove some of the pressure of doing, I have written stories about my life. I have opened up my heart and written about my secrets as I want you to know that you are not alone. Authenticity and vulnerability are such crucial parts of our journey into wholeness, and yet so many are so afraid to show the world who they are. We play the roles we feel are “right” and feel like frauds because of it. So there is nothing for you to do if you do not feel inspired to do so. You can read this book of stories from my life and leave it at that. Or, you can reflect and contemplate upon your own life and embody the frequencies of that particular “teaching” and maybe do some exercises if you feel inspired.

It is always wise to act on what inspires you; choose one thing you feel good about and refrain from trying to do what doesn’t. If meditation makes you feel stressed since it is another thing to do on your way too long to-do-list—don’t meditate! If an activity is not joyful and doesn’t make you feel good, stop doing it. We were created to enjoy the experience of life so relax, chill, and have fun. I think that we tend to take life a bit too seriously at times, especially the seekers who really want to make a difference in the world. We forget to enjoy and just be. We keep separating ourselves from ourselves so that we can experience oneness. We work hard, push, and fight instead of trusting the universe, feeling the divine grace, going with the flow, and laughing at our eagerness to achieve our dream lives. How ironic is that?

 

So here is your menu:

Every chapter has either a personal story and topic that I have gone through and processed, or a vision or life episode, or a poem, or something to serve as an example, illustration, and inspiration of the topic. Most of the stories were published in my Theos Heart blog in 2014 when my family and I had just moved to Costa Rica. The blog was read in thirty-eight countries that same year. The feedback was amazing. So many people felt seen and loved for who they were as they read about my experiences. But be aware—if you are not ready to act on your highest dreams—you might want to stay away. I have had several people saying my stories inspired them to move away, quit their jobs, travel—whatever they had dreamed of doing but were afraid to do before. Aside from these experiences, every chapter has tools, practices, reflective questions, or other easy ways to expand your heart light consciousness and help you to experience and master the art of a magical life. Are you ready to jump?

 

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need?

Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.”

– Eckhart Tolle (2005, p. 41)

Introduction

 

So here we are – all part of this great hologram called Creation, which is everybody else’s SELF…It’s all a cosmic play, and there is nothing but you!

– Itzhak Bentov (2000)

What is life about?

This is a question that I have asked myself for as long as I can remember. I know I’m not alone in asking this question. While doing Google research a few years ago, I found that 151 million people around the globe do the same search every month!

Most of us want to feel and experience that there is a purpose and meaning to our life. That there is some kind of reason why we suffer, break our hearts, and feel pain. If not, then what is the point of living? I refuse to believe what was said in a movie once: “Life is a bitch and then you die.” So what is life all about then? In my active search for the answer to this question over the last thirty years, I have come to the conclusion that it is to enjoy, create, and experience every single shade of ourselves in order to feel whole, complete, free, joyous, and at peace.

There are approximately seven billion humans on this planet, and each one is a probable mirror to a shade of you; a mirror in the sense that we subconsciously see and recognize a part of who we are in every other person on this earth. My experience is that every meeting I ever encounter with another will have the potential to make me feel more whole and complete than ever before. Every time I connect with another soul it activates another part of me that I have forgotten and vice versa. Life then becomes a beautiful dance of remembrance as these connections also hold the potential of mirroring our own perceptions back at us.

Every time you feel good or bad in a person’s company, it is a reflection of the shades of you. When you claim those shades, good or bad, you have the opportunity to be the full version of yourself. Of course, I am speaking metaphorically as not all 7 billion shades—or however many shades there might be of us in total—might be necessary for you to claim. Our shades come in all different levels and forms: mental, emotional, personal, traits, and soul shades. We can even have physical shades in our body. What we think, feel, believe and experience is connected to who we think we are. Everything and everyone is a potential shade of you. You can seek a consciousness or intelligence that embraces and accepts the full version of your diverse character traits— the dark, the light, and all the shades of colors in between.

Most of us will interact with other human beings more or less on daily basis in one form or the other. Some make us feel good about ourselves. Others trigger us to different degrees. You either love or hate or experience all the shades of gray emotions in between when it comes to each person. In other words, people can trigger a wide range of reactions and/or responses in us. Some people are energetically incongruent; they say one thing and send out vibes that don’t match, which make you feel unsafe and confused. Others are simply annoying with their comments or critical, judgmental, or controlling. Some are so loving and spiritual that you want to throw up. It really doesn’t matter what triggers you, but the fact that they do is a sign that there is a gift for you to collect. What you don’t like in others is something you don’t like in yourself or as Eckhart Tolle (2005, p. 74) said:

“Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you.”

I know, it’s frustrating isn’t it? It would really trigger my anger when people told me this. I knew this statement to be true; I just didn’t want to hear it. Mainly because that would mean I had to take radical responsibility for my life, as I couldn’t blame others for how I felt anymore. Crap!

So why is it that we have these different shades that we don’t like—in others and in ourselves? One idea that we are taught since childhood is that there are positive and negative emotions we should and should not feel. For instance, we suppress the emotions that our spiritual community, society, culture, religion, or family define as negative and wrong. One problem with suppressing one emotion is that we then tend to suppress them all. We cannot pick and choose which ones to feel without affecting the others as well. In other words, the emotions or shades of us we don’t want to see or have—also called shadows—will work against us when we resist and reject them and make us numb to all emotions to a certain degree. It is like taking antidepressants; we feel flat with no extreme emotions of any kind. No happiness, no pain, just an okay feeling. Embracing our shadow shades is an amazing tool to feel more, be more, and live fully. Also, when we focus on “positive” emotions and suppress the “negative” ones, we are telling ourselves that we are not good enough as we are. We believe that we are wrong for having those emotions. How can we genuinely be happy and at peace then?

Let me tell you something you might have heard before: There are no negative or positive emotions. There are only emotions that we judge as positive or negative. Emotions are all very joyful when we accept and embrace them. And this is not something I say because it sounds good. I really, truly enjoy all emotions when I let them flow through me freely. When I face them and love them, just as they are, they are so beautiful and enjoyable. Not that I always manage to do so, but when I do, ahhhhh, lovely…

When I connect to my inner truth, there is no resistance and thereby I am free. Not that I always feel happy about all the emotions I experience. I might even still try to resist them. But as long as I am truthful to myself, I honor myself and can see the meaning and potential of a limitless life when I embrace all emotions, thoughts, and reactions. There is such power in, for instance, our emotions when we embrace them. Really! Or as my favorite spiritual teacher and intuitive Matt Kahn (2016) recommends we say when there are emotions arising we don’t like:

I respect your power.”

When you experience anger—feel into it—isn’t it powerful? It can remove all the happiness and joy you felt moments before the anger arose. Respect! That is a powerful force! I respect the power of that anger.

Emotions also act as personal guides when we become aware of them and actually listen to what they have to say. They are not speaking “universal truth” about how things are, but they guide you to show you your subconscious emotions. Most people are not aware that these subconscious emotions often are based on past experiences. These emotions are not neutral; they are compasses that show us what shades of ourselves we need to embrace. The shift in our awakening happens when we honor our emotions as the guides they are instead of insisting they define how reality is. These emotions come from our past, our stories, and we need to honor them. But we don’t have to be ruled by them. Taking back our power comes from embracing and respecting our emotions for the guides they are.

It is a pretty difficult task to accept and love ourselves fully when we only accept the shades of us that we define as good. But the best part is that when we embrace and accept all of ourselves, our emotions change automatically to what we judge as being positive. In other words, being conscious of our judgments and beliefs removes our subconscious triggers and helps us to discern what our emotions are that stem from the collective consciousness. We all experience the same emotions, and for those of us who are highly empathic, we might tend to take everyone’s emotions in and believe them to be ours. Emotions are powerful energy. And that is all there is—energy.

We all want to be loved, not for the roles we play or the identities we take on—but for who we really are in our deepest essence. When Oprah gave her speech on her final Oprah show, she said something in line with:

“Something I have learned over the years is that what all people have in common is that they all want to be seen, heard, and validated for who they are.”

We blossom when we connect with people who really get us. We feel alive when someone can really see us and understand us beyond what we have said or done. When we connect heart to heart. We feel happy and peaceful when someone looks into our eyes and we can feel their unconditional love and acceptance of us for no obvious reason at all. That is one powerful way of how we can be of service to the planet—to hold space and see the essence that we all are: Earth Gods/Goddesses. Try to focus on that in other people. That doesn’t mean we should put ourselves in dangerous or harmful situations. It is important that we honor ourselves first and foremost. If someone is overstepping your boundaries, say, “thank you, but no thank you” and leave. Still, remember, they are not what they do. Even Lucifer was an angel. I might not want to be friends with him, but he was still an angel…

My deepest longing with this book is to make you feel loved, seen, and accepted for who you are so that you can feel what I know is the truth: You are an amazing, powerful, and beautiful being. Perfect, just as you are. You don’t need any fixing. You are not broken, even if you currently might doubt that. We are so programed and trained to feel inadequate and powerless that we have almost completely forgotten the power we possess. Is it time for you to step into that power? Is that the reason why you sit with this book in your hands at this very moment? Were you drawn to this book because the universe said:

It is time.

It is time to blossom into your full potential.

To live the life you have always dreamed of and envisioned.

To reconnect to the greatness that you are.

All 7 billion shades of you!”

I am inviting you to join me on my journey to read about my inner shadows, judgments, and feelings so you don’t have to feel alone with your unembraced shades. So that you can have the courage to go on a journey within to explore, love, and embrace the 7 billion shades of you. I am sharing my stories and secrets so that I can take your hand and help you to cross the bridge over to the other side of the pain and suffering. I have been there; now I can lead you home. I have felt it all. I have lost and found. I have been in pain—physical, emotional, and spiritual. Then I saw the gifts in and perfection of it all. Because when we can find the gifts, acceptance, and love for our whole being, we are free. Free of limitations, free of suffering, free of false beliefs. To stay real and authentic with ourselves, to love, respect, and honor who we really are, and receive the grace of life, are the keys to our greatness and full power. When we can love and feel ourselves in our entirety—including our shadows, dark sides, and “negative” feelings, we are free to choose the life we long for. When we cast the light on our dark spots, we can live fully.

We are unique human beings, every one of us. The world is calling your name. We need you! There is only one you. Please take my hand and walk into the unknown, outside the boxes, limitations, and matrices, and step into the infinite, unique, and extraordinary being that you are. Let us claim our freedom, infinite possibilities, limitlessness, light, and power. Let us be who we are. I Am that I Am. I AM the One Light. Or as Neil Gaiman said in his commencement address to the Class of 2012 at the University of the Arts in Philadelphia (2012):

“The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you.

Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision.

So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.”

 

 

 

 

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